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There’s No Excuse for Abuse

June 4, 2020 / Jarman Impey, Our Watch Ambassador

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Since round one ended, I enjoyed my time in isolation. I had been at a family friend’s 10-acre property in Shepparton where I was able to mind my own business and escape the mad city life when I was living in Melbourne. It was a nice and relaxed environment, where I was able to focus on my training and get back to where I was before I injured my knee in July last year.

AFL player, Jarman Impey wearing a yellow football guernsey with an Aboriginal design. He's holding the collar and looking upwards to the right of the camera.
AFL player and Our Watch ambassador, Jarman Impey. Source: AFLPA.

The time in lockdown gave me the opportunity to reflect and consider what reconciliation means to me.  As we come to the close of National Reconciliation Week, I love that it has symbolised coming together and having respect and understanding for one another and the cultures that makeup Australia.

The theme of this year’s Reconciliation Week is ‘In This Together’ and it is very fitting considering the year we’ve had.

COVID-19 and the dreadful bushfires that ravaged our country have seen us come together in the most difficult of times.

Businesses have been hurt and some people have undoubtedly been affected both financially and emotionally, but our willingness to come together has never been more evident.

As an Aboriginal man, I believe that ‘In this Together’ means that we must respect and support the rights of our First Australians and look after the land that Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people have cherished for more than 40,000 years.

It’s a theme that considers how we live on this land in harmony by recognising Australia’s history, which has been characterised by land dispossession, colonisation, and racism.

To celebrate National Reconciliation Week at the Club, we linked up on Zoom to work on an Aboriginal painting.

We learnt how to draw and then paint a Tarrakukk Hawk with Aboriginal Artist, Tom Day. It was a really special way to mark Reconciliation Week with some of the boys and a shining example of how footy can lead the way in celebrating and learning about Indigenous culture.

I think it’s important that people approach learning about other cultures with an open mind, that people are curious and are free to ask questions.

Sharing your own experiences and listening to the stories of others, is a great way to gain a better understanding of what has gone on in the past and also what we can make the future.

We are very lucky as athletes that our game affords us such a great following.

This gives me an opportunity to be a leader within the community, which is why I am an ambassador for Our Watch.

Our Watch recently released a campaign called ‘No Excuse for Abuse’ which is about raising awareness of non-physical forms of violence.

Not all abuse is physical, it can be emotional, financial, social, or spiritual.

When we know that intimate partner violence contributes 10.9 percent of the burden of disease for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women aged 18 to 44, which is more than any other health risk factor, including alcoholism, tobacco use or being overweight or obese, that puts into perspective the need for us to talk about the forms of abuse that men of all cultural backgrounds inflict on Indigenous women.

In order to prevent violence against Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women, we cannot ignore the lasting effects of colonisation on Indigenous people.

We are not starting from the same place and that must be acknowledged in order to achieve true reconciliation.

As a baseline, we must have respect for one another, indigenous or non-indigenous, male, female, or otherwise. No one is perfect, myself included, but we can all practice being respectful of others, regardless of the potential stress, financial difficulties, and social isolation that COVID-19 has brought with it. There is never an excuse for abuse.

With footy back on the horizon and having trained solo for 10 weeks through the COVID-19 period, I’ve been hanging to get back to see the group and do some training with the boys. There’s no doubt that it will be a strange season ahead, and it’s a shame that we missed some of the milestone weekends like the Sir Doug Nicholls Round as a result of the shutdown.

But I am glad that I’ve had a bit of extra time to reflect and to recognise that in order to strengthen relationships between Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people and non-Indigenous peoples we must lead with respect and create greater understanding between us.

Jarman Impey is an Our Watch ambassador.

This opinion piece was originally published on the AFL Players website on 3 June 2020

Media contact

Saraya Musovic, Senior Media and Communications Advisor (saraya.musovic@ourwatch.org.au or 0448 844 930) or media@ourwatch.org.au

*If you cover this story, or any story regarding violence against women and children, please include the following tagline:
“If you or someone you know is impacted by sexual assault, family or domestic violence, call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit www.1800RESPECT.org.au. In an emergency, call 000.”

To access guides for reporting about violence against women and their children, visit Media Making Change.

About Our Watch

Our Watch is a national leader in Australia’s work to stop violence against women and their children before it starts. The organisation was created to drive nation-wide change in the practices, norms and structures that lead to violence against women and children.

Find out more about our work to end violence against women in Australia.

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