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Sometimes I follow her home from work without her knowing, but it's only because...

Because nothing - there IS no excuse for stalking.

Harassing someone with unwanted contact or attention is serious and inexcusable.

Stalking can include (but is not limited to) …
  • Following someone or tracking their movements.
  • Repeatedly trying to make unwanted conversation with someone.
  • Giving inappropriate or unwanted gifts.
  • Constantly trying to turn up at the same social events as someone.
  • Repeatedly sending messages or leaving notes for someone.
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He says I must go to church with him and forget about my beliefs, but it's only because...

Because nothing - there IS no excuse for spiritual abuse.

Using faith or spirituality to control a partner or stop them from practicing their own beliefs is serious and inexcusable. 

Spiritual abuse can include (but is not limited to) …
  • Stopping a partner from visiting their place of worship or spiritual community.
  • Not allowing a partner to practice their beliefs and customs.
  • Forcing a partner to practice beliefs or customs which they don’t believe in.
  • Shaming a partner for not practicing their beliefs strictly enough.
  • Using spiritual beliefs to justify abuse or harmful behaviour.
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He looks through my phone every now and then, but it's only because...

Because nothing - there IS no excuse for technological abuse.

Using technology or devices to control, embarrass or demean a partner is serious and inexcusable. 
 
Technological abuse can include (but is not limited to) …
  • Sending nude or embarrassing images of a partner to other people.
  • Tracking a partner’s whereabouts using a phone or GPS device without consent.
  • Accessing a partner’s private messages or conversations.
  • Posting messages from a partner’s accounts.
  • Using technology to send unwanted images or messages.
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I told her, once we're married she'll have to quit her job, but that's only because...

Because nothing - there IS no excuse for financial abuse.

Controlling a partner’s access to money or finances to limit their freedom or financial power is serious and inexcusable. 
 
Financial abuse can include (but is not limited to) …
  • Not letting a partner have debit/credit cards or access to bank accounts.
  • Not giving a partner access to shared bank accounts.
  • Spending or borrowing a partner’s money without them knowing or agreeing.
  • Forcing a partner to quit their job or lose their income.
  • Holding back funds for necessities like food, medication, or disability-related equipment.
Watch the video Visit 1800RESPECT Men's Referral Service

Sometimes when I forget things he gets pretty mad, but it's only because...

Because nothing - there IS no excuse for psychological or emotional abuse.

Threatening, frightening, belittling or embarrassing a partner is serious and inexcusable. 
 
Emotional abuse can include (but is not limited to) …
  • Verbal aggression and fits of rage.
  • Threatening to leave or self-harm as blackmail.
  • Regularly teasing or putting someone down to damage a partner’s self-worth.
  • ‘Gaslighting’ or tricking and lying to make a partner question their own sanity.
  • Constantly correcting or criticising to diminish a partner’s confidence.
Watch the video Visit 1800RESPECT Men's Referral Service

He doesn't like me seeing my friends anymore, but it's only because...

Because nothing - there IS no excuse for social abuse.

Controlling who a partner can see or talk to is serious and inexcusable. 
 
Social abuse can include (but is not limited to) …
  • Monitoring a partner’s whereabouts and who they’re with.
  • Stopping a partner from seeing certain people or groups of people.
  • Forcing a partner to live too far away from family or friends.
  • Sabotaging a partner’s relationships or damaging their reputation.
  • Embarrassing a partner in front of other people.
Watch the video Visit 1800RESPECT Men's Referral Service

Need support?

If you feel you are in any kind of danger please call 000. 

If you or someone you know has experienced any kind of abuse, sexual assault, domestic or family violence please call 1800RESPECT or visit their website...

Visit the 1800RESPECT website

If you’re concerned about your behaviour and would like support or information, please call the Men’s Referral Service 1300 766 491 or visit the website to chat online...

Visit the Men's Referral Service website


Practitioners

Our Watch have produced a multi-purpose practitioner resource. Unpacking Violence: a storytelling resource for understanding non-physical forms of abuse and the gendered drivers of violence against women will support prevention practitioners in their work to increase understanding that all forms of abuse are serious. It includes seven narrative stories as well as guiideance notes assisting practitioners in undertaking prevention acitivities.

Visit the Our Watch page to download the resources

 

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