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Tara Moss says enough victim-blaming. Enough.

May 09 2016 By Tara Moss

Until we as a community, and in the media, come to understand that these toxic attitudes are contributing to the violence, we won't see a reduction in these kinds of deaths.

Tara Moss and Dr Ann O'Neill announced as Our Watch Ambassadors Image

This is Dr. Ann O’Neill. She is one of the most resilient, impressive (and funny!) women I have met. She is a survivor who has become a powerful advocate for ending violence against women and children.

On Wednesday night at Kirribilli House we were both announced as ambassadors for Our Watch, and she told her story to us. It was one I won't soon forget. And it shouldn't be forgotten.

"THE role of a domestic violence “survivor” or “victim” advocate is not one you sign up for. For me, I never expected to be lying in my bed sleeping, when my estranged husband came and shot our two children, Kyle and Latisha, attempted to kill me and committed suicide in front of me. I then didn’t expect to wake up in my hospital bed after they amputated my right leg to hear the media saying what a nice guy he was," she said.

As she explains here in her full speech;"The only thing worse than having your family murdered is being blamed for it."

People wanted to know what she did to 'make him' kill their family and try to kill her. 
Enough victim-blaming. Enough. 

Until we as a community, and in the media, come to understand that these toxic attitudes are contributing to the violence, we won't see a reduction in these kinds of deaths.

Until we understand that gender inequality plays a role in violence against women, we won't see a reduction in this kind of violence - in this case meticulously planned murder that comes from a place of entitlement and a sense of ownership over other human beings.

The right to kill your own children and your estranged wife because she is no longer under your control.

No one has that right. People who do this are not 'nice guys'...

They are murderers.

This post was originally published by Tara Moss on her Instagram page